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Creating The Circle of Happiness in Your Life

19:54 October 8th, 2016
200 yards from the Atlantic Ocean,
Salthill,
Galway,
Ireland.

The last few days my 5-1/2 month old Nephew Seamas has been up to visit us.  He’s an adorable little man.

Kids at that age are superlearners.  It’s amazing to watch.  Almost daily there is some progression.  He’s always up to something to develop himself, in every waking moment.  And the sleeping and feeding is just to rejuvenate – so he can power forward again.

He’s not crawling yet, but he’s able to do mini press-ups and he does the yoga greeting the sun move of raising his head up as high as he can with his hips on the ground.  He gets up on his hands and feet and he starts rocking back and forth.  Then he makes an effort to crawl forward.

Any day now he’ll master it.  He can go a bit forward down on his elbows, but it’s more of a squirm.  All these moves are making him stronger and more coordinated.  It’s setting the stage for his next milestone.

He’s also biting and tasting everything.  He’s interacting with people and having fun.  He gets more advanced on these things all the time.

They say we learn more in our first five years on the planet than in the rest of our lives.

Babies are amazing.

Well, we’ve talked before about going towards OUR GOALS.  Let’s look at what the most efficient learners do… the little guys above.

They are as happy as larry and have a picture in mind for what they want to do.  They’ve no encumberments of irrational fears, tension or doubt.  They just have desire to achieve the next step for them.  They also really ENJOY the whole process.

I was on the ground playing with Seamas earlier as he was ‘working out’.  He was up on all fours and making his latest attempts at moving forward.  He had a big smile on his face the whole time –  a happy lad, doing his thing.

Nothing is surer he’ll achieve his goal too.

He’s delighted where he’s at.  He feels confident.  He might grunt a bit when he flops down because his arms aren’t yet strong enough to take him forward.  However, the smile isn’t far behind.  He’s also clearly determined.  He has a clear image of what he wants and strong desire to do it.

It’s all fun, joy and loving the challenge.

It’s not a problem to solve either.  Too many of us adults are ‘problem solvers.’  It’s the wrong way to look at things – much better to treat ‘problems’ as things to transcend.  If problems come up, don’t look for the solution, look for what you actually WANT.  And move towards THAT.

Otherwise, more problems come along, because we are just in ‘putting out fires’ mode.  In fact, with this approach, most of the problems we ‘fix’ tend to come back too.

Problems are taken care of automatically if our focus is on what we want.  It’s the flow instead of stress route.

Getting back to the title of this piece, ‘The Circle of Happiness’, goals are also supposed to enhance our lives.  Too many of us turn goals into stress events of large proportions.  That’s not how we were when we started life.

Let’s get into our flow.

This is the NATURAL way to be; feeling happy, calm and grateful.  If you start to do this and continue it, your self-image will grow and so will your confidence.  MORE and better versions of success will come your way.

Happiness is how we view ourselves and engaging our passions.  It is not something that comes from outside things or reaching a goal we ‘HAVE’ to achieve.

Sure, we want to create desires and goals.  That’s a great thing.  It is enlivening to go after things.  It’s part of who we are as humans.  It’s fun and progressive.  Who doesn’t like doing that?

However, we just want to do it in the most powerful way, not one that creates an unhealthy life.

That’s what the ‘Creating The Mentality of Success’ and ‘Your Breath is your Power’ chapters in The Next Level Sports Program are about.

The result is the Circle of Happiness.

There’s a concept of surrendering the outcome.  This ensures you are in flow before, during and after an event or conclusion.  That doesn’t mean you aren’t determined and burning with desire to achieve the goal.  It just means you are happy no matter what.  It means you don’t have fears or unhelpful beliefs creating interference and bad stress.

Letting go of the outcome also gives you a better chance of achieving the goal.

Feeling great… AND more successful.  Way to be, right?

And after all, isn’t the main goal we all have in life… HAPPINESS?  Think about it.

The mini-humans have it right and they learn more in the first five years than we do the rest of the time…  OR they USUALLY learn and achieve more in the first five years than the rest of us.

There are some very rare super learners and ultra successful people among us that by luck or design have this concept ingrained as adults too.

Be one of those people.

Be it. Do it. Live it.

Yours,
Brian Timlin
www.nextlevelsportsprogram.com

 

Ps.  When I say ‘successful’, success is determined in different ways by different people.  Mother Theresa was just as successful as Steve Jobs.  She was happy and living her truth and passion.